I changed the theme again of the blog after Maggie May complained about how hard it was for her to read the print on the black background, so there were only two options, either Maggie had to get really strong reading glasses or I had to change the theme of the blog, and since I like change, I didn’t mind doing that at all and at the same time I got to pick out a new image for the header, which I think is very angelic looking to match my mood of innocence and slight rapture at my possible new beginnings.
Yes, I am most definitely pleased about the way things are turning out and I am very grateful for this turn of events and can’t wait to start my new life as an independent woman. I look forward to not being married anymore and throwing of that yuk and being a woman who makes her own decisions about how she lives her life. It will be wonderful not to have to justify what I do to someone else and to have to give an explanation for everything I do or don’t do. Free at last, for the first time in my life. The emancipation of Nora, which I will celebrate with a party of some sort.
I have decided not to take of the two gold bands that I wear on my left ring finger, one of which I wear in memory of my son. In the Netherlands it is the custom of widows to wear their own wedding band as well as their deceased husband’s wedding band on one finger and this way people will think I am a widow and that may save me from some unpleasant encounters. People will treat me with some unspoken respect and that is just the way I like it. Let them assume what they will. As long as I don’t come right out with a statement I will not be lying.
My gastric band was filled this morning and I was very nicely driven over to the hospital by Eduard who took any speed bumps very slowly and carefully. Walking is going ever so much better now and as long as I don’t lean into anything I feel pretty good. Most backrests are hard and uncomfortable so I sit up very straight and don’t lean back. I may even try and take the dog for a walk in a while as long as he does not pull at the leash too much. He is not bothering me about going out, so I have a little bit of time yet. In the morning he gets impatient at six, as Eduard doesn’t take him out until seven, and I tell Jesker to go and wake him up and Jesker does this by barking at him, which Eduard does not appreciate. Jesker is such a smart dog!
Eduard is a bit grumpy in the morning and does not tolerate the cats well on the kitchen counter and the dog at his heels while he gets his breakfast and he grumbles at them and argues with them constantly as if they are people who understand his purpose. The animals have no idea what is is all about and just keep doing the same thing every morning.
I make myself small behind the computer and hope that I am not doing something wrong that will require some comment from him. Grumpy people should live in separate houses.
My younger sister just called me and told me in the strictest confidence that she is getting a divorce to and I am very happy for her, because she has been unhappy for a very long time. I am not to speak to anyone about it though because of the children. They want to have everything arranged as much as possible first and then tell the children, who can then decide which parent they want to stay with. None of you know my sister, so I suppose my secret is safe with you. Mum’s the word. It has to be a successful divorce.
Anyway, that means that all of us three sisters will be without a husband soon and none of us are planning on looking for a new one. We will take them on as platonic friends, but that is about it. We’re not planning on getting into the draining aspects of relationships again. We’ve been burned too much and are possibly too dysfunctional to pick a good healthy partner. We did not have very good role models. All three of us have the tendency to be a bit of an Einzelgänger, so that is alright then. We make our own way through this life.
We’re not telling our older sister anything until both our processes are well underway. There’s no need to inform the whole world until we are fully ready to. I’d like to present everybody with a given fact as much as possible. The beauty lies in the perfect formula in that you don’t have to check with everybody and ask for their stamp of approval or their blessing.
It will be good to hear the words, I now stop pronouncing you man and wife, or something along those lines.
Wel, I have to go and try and take the dog for a walk. My real post for today is below here, in case you haven’t read that yet. Here’s to the true emancipation of womanhood for my sisters and I and hopefully for our daughters too. I know we can do it and come out as fully functioning and capable human beings. You just wait and see.
Ciao…
sounding good.
I hope none of those people do read your blog, otherwise you have let your sister’s cat out of the bag. LOL
You must have almost reached your desired weight, now Nora, you haven’t mentioned that for so long, it used to be almost an obsession with you, but now you are so much slimmer, you have it more in control. Also you have not sounded in the least mood-swingy for the last few days, keeping everything crossed on that. You just sound grounded and balanced. So so happy for you. Long may it continue, preferably for ever.
I think it is very possible that I am going to have many less mood swings from now on for various reasons, but mostly because I will be the master of my own emotions and I will not be dependent on the hand outs and the goodwill of other people, specifically one person. He had my fate in his hands too much and I let him. Too much depended on that and it wasn’t healthy. This is going to be an ever so much better situation.
yay you!
Also – you know you are in control, so that makes it easier to keep control, don’t you think? Once out of an unhealthy dynamic, things should be better.. the dynamic being internal and external…
Your self-esteem should come back into full sway and then it is down to you.
Great to see this strong streak coming out, Nora.
Who staple wings on those poor kid’s back….this is horrible.
maybe it is crazy glue which would be a bit more civil and more bloggy since we all embrace some level of post industrrial technology….
those kids also need swimming trunks
I think you and your sisters should consider arranging a Wohngemeinschaft for yourselves, with all of you being single soon.
I like the new look, it’s very light and airy. And angels, who would’ve thought!
This lumbago cr*p takes longer than anyone would want, Felix is still not much better either and has just cancelled all the appointments and meetings he’s had organised for tomorrow at work. We have a bank holiday here today, so thankfully he can still get some rest. Sending you some good wishes, too, hope your back gives you less trouble very soon!
Oh Nora! Imagine not having to deal with a grumpy person in the house every single morning. What bliss that will be for you!
I’m so glad your eyes are open now and you can see what has been going on. Good for you!
You know how proud I am of you! I could just hug you with happiness! (but I’d be careful of your back!)
I was sitting in the car this morning thinking I don’t have to be married to a Boessenkool anymore, because I was listening to Eduard’s rhetoric about other drivers. The Boessenkool men do have a tendency to think that they are God almighty and better than mere mortals. What a relief that will be. I can have my own godly interpretation of peace and tranquility. I’ll never have to get upset about trivialities again. I can slow down to my own speed, which is pretty mellow. I can stop that nervous habit of eating cookies, which I only developed since I am with Eduard. Sweets to soothe my rattled nerves.
LOL John
I am very pleased for you that you are sounding so calm and in control, and be mistress of your own destiny.
I very much like the new image on your blog! I am really pleased that you have reached a decision about your relationship and that you are satisfied with that decision. I am sorry about your sisters’ relationships, of course, and I hope that you will all be able to support each other througout this time.
Nora………. Wow…….. What an honour! I am most touched. I don’t think reading glasses would help. I have something going on behind both eyes called PVDs. It makes seeing dark things very difficult for me & I gave up driving because my night vision was extremely bad. ‘Nuff of that!
I am really pleased that you seem so much better now that you have made your decision. You know, I think it was making you ill having to share like that. The three sisters will be able to help each other through the bad times & to hell with the men!!!!!!
Keep up the good work!
My best, Nora, to you on your emancipation – you are an amazing woman. As a man I joke too much – I am sitting hear listening to Deathcab and tought of you…..may the anglews be with you…peace.
John, as a man, you joke just enough. You haven’t even reached the level of obnoxious yet. I can take a licking about my angels, it is all tongue in cheeks anyway. I am very much aware of the angel craze that had everybody in its grip in the 80’s and the 90’s. This is my little contribution to that. I’ve always been a late bloomer.