When I first came back to the Netherlands, I was very homesick for Northern California, specifically for Sonoma and the Sonoma Valley. I also missed the wine country and the beautiful wild coast and the redwood forests and the gentle hills below which the cows grazed. I really felt at home in Sonoma and I used to take my car and drive all over the place to enjoy the scenery. Sometimes I would go to Mendocino and spend some days there, just by myself or with Nicole. When I lived with David, I enjoyed living in his house, which was built on a hill between lots of oak and bay trees with a view of San Fransisco Bay. I would go rambling into the hills with my dog and be gone for hours. So when we were back in the Netherlands, it was a real culture shock for me. I remember walking around down town and hearing American people speak and me wanting to cling to them and wanting to plead with them to take me home with them. I was in bad shape then. I had even forgotten how to speak Dutch well and I kept making mistakes in the language and just couldn’t speak it fluently. It all ended up in a major depression.
Now that I have been here 13 years, things couldn’t be different. I am completely acclimatized. I speak the language very well and in my mind I am a Dutch woman again and only under certain circumstances would I want to live in America again. Mostly I just want to stay here, right where I am, because I am comfortable here. But it sure was a battle to get to this point. I used to hate having to be here and I thought that this was not my place to be. But that was at a time when I was angry at the world and I am glad to say that I have left that anger behind me. Even though I mostly read English language books, I am starting to forget some of my English and I now find it easier to speak Dutch. In the beginning I sometimes had to speak English to Eduard, but I very seldom do that anymore. I also think that I have achieved some form of happiness here and that has helped a lot, this is where I have learned to find some inner peace.
I have changed. I used to be a very romantic person and I am not anymore, but I am happy with that, because I think a lot of times I was unrealistic. I am much more pragmatic now. I have become patient in many ways. I think about things for a long time before I implement them (when I am not manic). My priorities have changed and I have become less middle class en less materialistic. My politics have shifted more to the left, but I am by no means an extreme. I still feel the need for some ritualistic faith, but I have been unable to find one that fits the bill.
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I have some sort of eczema on my head, under my hair. It itches and it is very flaky. I have tried Head and Shoulders, but it isn’t working much. Yesterday I called the doctor’s office and they told me to get sweet almond’s oil and to rub that on my scalp every night before I go to bed and to shampoo it the next day. So, last night Eduard rubbed the oil on my head with cotton balls and I put a towel on my pillow to protect it. I am going to wash my hair in a bit. You notice that in the Netherlands they use natural medicine more often in the form of lotions, cremes, or teas. There is a natural remedy laxative tea that I use sometimes that works very well. And a cough syrup made of pine tips and honey that works well too.
The computer man managed to extract some important things from the old computer and transferred them to the new one. There are pictures of Demian and Nicole for instance and family trees and many book lists. I also had a map called downloads, in which I also had important stuff like spamfighter and a cleaner and games, that is all there. Also the genealogy program that I had been using.
Eduard has to work today until 2 pm. This is the last weekend of the film festival. On Monday and Tuesday they have to disassemble all the films and get them ready for transport. It is always such a busy week with record breaking crowds. The bar does a tremendous amount of business too and they hardly have enough people to serve the crowd. I am used to Eduard working odd hours, but I do like the fact that he is usually home in the afternoon, even if it means he has to work again in the evening.
We had Windows XP with Service Pack 2 installed on the computer. We decided not to go for Vista. We aren’t to sure about that one yet. But it doesn’t include Microsoft Word. So, yesterday, my sister looked through all her Cd’s and found Microsoft Word which I will install today. That is so much better than just working with word pad. My sister took a course working with Microsoft Word and she still has all the material, so one of these day I am going to do it myself and maybe try and get a part time office job somewhere. I told Eduard that, if this present mood is permanent, I may even try to get my driver’s license. I am going to give it a year, because that will give me ample time to evaluate how I am doing. If there are going to be any ups and downs.
Okay, time to get the day moving again. Dishes first and then the vacuuming, which I didn’t do yesterday and, boy, can you tell! Ciao!