I was in no shape to write a post this morning, because i was not nearly coherent. Then Edurd had also told me that a computer uses 300 watts an hour and that made me think that with all of my blogging I really use up a lot of energy, and since I am going to be a poor woman soon, I don’t want to owe the energy company any money at the end of the year, So I felt uncomfortable about spending so much time behind the computer and had to find a solution.
So, this morning, instead of writing a post with my non coherent mind, I downloaded Google reader and added all the blogs that I read to it and I can now see them all in a jiffy and if they have been updated. Today I very quickly read through all of them with the result that I didn’t leave any encouraging comments anywhere, I was in such a hurry to get through them. I promise to be better tomorrow and actually comment, because I do know how to do that.
I also picked up an unexpected award from Debs at the Lehners in France and I certainly wasn’t expecting that, but am ever so grateful for it and sure appreciate it. Here it is:
Isn’t that sweet? I am sure that I am supposed to hand it to someone else, but it is something I can’t quite wrap my head around right now, so I will do that tomorrow. Please remind me to do that.
I have been feeling rushed all day, but in reality I am not getting much accomplished. I saw my SPN this morning and that was fine. I don’t know if she is 100% behind me on my divorce plans, but I can’t force her to be and time will tel how it will all work out. This does not mean that she is not supportive of me, she is just cautious. After our meeting, she had her meeting with the personality disorder team, so I will hear all about that next week.
Yesterday, I had a meeting with the activity coordinator at the psychiatric out patient clinic and I am starting 3 hours of ergo-therapy on Wednesdays starting tomorrow. No time to get nervous about it. I just jump in and do it. I will start 3 hours of creative therapy on June the 30th on Mondays. I am just full of bravery and will not back down this time. I am so full of myself right now and feel very brave, although I am the least little bit nervous, but I will get over that.
I had another treatment at the physiotherapist this afternoon and that is helping a lot. I will have one more treatment on Thursday and that is it. I should be alright after that. The ultrasound is helping me a lot.
Eduard and his girlfriend tried to find affordable housing for Eduard just across the border in Belgium this afternoon, but they have not come up with anything yet. It is becoming increasingly difficult for various reasons to have Eduard living here still and the situation is really unattainable. He comes and goes and I find it very uncomfortable, because I get used to him being home and get some of those old cozy feelings and I shouldn’t be having those. It’s much better if he is gone and I am on my own and just functioning that way then get all tenderhearted about him, which is inevitable when I hang around with him and I am having a weak moment, because I do get those. I must stay focused on the reality of the situation as it is and not on how I thought it was.
The obvious solution is that he moves in with his girlfriend for the time being until he gets his own place and I am all for that and would gladly pack his bag and all of his belongings. He needs to be gone from here. I need to get on with my life. I can’t do that if he keeps coming home every day and taking up his place again here. I need to deal with my feelings on my own and get that process started, I am now hampered in it every time.
I think for Eduard it is uncomfortable too, because he wants to get on with his other life and doesn’t feel comfortable doing that in my presence. I sure as hell hope we decide on something by this weekend. I know that we will both go through a process of grief and now we are just postponing it. It is inevitable that it happens. But once set upon the road, there is no turning back.
I have downloaded 8 CD’s to an MP3 player and I am listening to it now. It is pretty heavy duty music, no fooling around. I’ve got dEUS and Death Cab and Goo Goo Dolls and some very good Björk. I do so like her very much for her unexpectedness. I’ve got half the player filled up, so I will get some other neat stuff yet.
I will totally be truthful with you and tell you that today is not as easy a day as the last two weeks have been, but I have been informed that this is perfectly normal and that my emotions will cover a whole range. That this is to be expected and not to become discouraged by it. So, I will not. Nothing in life is only easy, there are always the hard bits too, but you climb across them or out of them and make it to the smoother areas again. Toady I am nostalgic for the good times Eduard and I had and they have a tendency to shine a little brighter maybe than they actually were. Nostalgia does that to you. I keep having to look at everything through these glasses of present day realism. Know a lost cause when I see it and not beat a dead horse. No, I’ve stopped doing that already.
How did you like that football game between the Netherlands and Italy? Was it great or what? We certainly had great big grins on or faces because of it. It gives us hope for the rest of the games. Maybe we will do alright.
Right, that’s it. I must go and watch some boring TV and have some decaf and then walk Jesker. My trusty and loyal four footed pal who never lets me down.
Ciao…