I got up earlier and thought I was done sleeping. Ha! Who did I think I was fooling? Back to the sofa I went to catch another forty winks and now I am truly awake. I can be such a foolish, stubborn woman when it comes to getting up in the middle of the night and thinking I am done sleeping. Mother Nature interferes and makes me fall asleep with the mouse in my hand, nodding off behind the bright screen of the PC, stubbornly sitting somewhat upright in my desk chair, chin on my chest and eyes firmly closed. It’s amazing that I don’t fall out off my chair, but we do have survival tactics that prevent us from going bump in the night.
I finally finished reading all the blogs I started reading yesterday morning and will have to start reading them again all over again after I finish writing this. You see how I don’t have very many dull moments in the day. There is always something to catch up on and I do need all those little in between moments of absolutely nothing. Those moments when I sit on the sofa and do nothing but drink coffee and smoke a cigarette and think about unimportant things. That is not hard to do, there are unimportant things that require my attention too in my life. I like to keep it that way, uncomplicated and without intricacies and made up of many simple events in many simple sequences.
This is because I don’t like the way I respond to the least amount of stress or the least amount or perceived stress. Sometimes I feel a small sort of empathy with how I understand autism works. I can imagine a little bit what it is like and I feel some of that within myself. I also saw some of it in my son when he was a little guy, so I did a lot of reading about it at one time and some of it was familiar to me. I understood some of it and recognized some of it just in small amounts and have had some fascination with it since then. Although I haste to add that true autism is a terrible thing to have and I wouldn’t very lightly wish it on anybody. I just seem to have some elements of it to some degree.
I had downloaded some new music to my MP3 player and put it on random play and it is now actually randomly playing this new music. Sometimes it seems to only repeat music I have already heard before. Oh yes, I am sitting here with my headphones on. Norah Jones is on now.
I will have another week of physiotherapy for my back, but it is so much better already and I think I am much improved and can stop after two more sessions. I didn’t think I would have this much benefit from it and I am very pleased. I can highly recommend it to anybody. Manual therapy, remember the words.
Oh yes, today is Friday, the magical day of the week. My favorite day of the week. How wonderful!
Yesterday afternoon I had tea with my sister in her garden and we had a huge conversation about life and how we two as individuals stood in it and how much we were shaped by events in our shared past and our common bonds and how those things had influenced the way in which we dealt with things as adults and wives and mothers. If you ever want to prove the hypotheses of childhood influences on the course of a subsequent lifetime, I suppose my sister and I are the proof of the pudding. We have been disfigured and misshapen and misinformed and unreliably prepared for life and at this relatively late age we have to find out about causes and effects that other people find out in their 20’s.
Luckily, between the two of us, we can be brutally honest and show our worst sides to each other and own up to our least flattering aspects, but also retrace the causes for them and hopefully learn something about them. Life is a journey taken backwards in order to move forwards, isn’t it? Those of you who have had relatively normal childhoods will not understand this. There are parents who screw up their own lives and their children’s lives royally. Who should never have had children to begin with.
Okay, enough of that. I forget to be not so serious and heavy handed . I do have this tendency to take everything very seriously, I realize that. I should be the advocate of some cause. Maybe Greenpeace has a place for seriously dedicated people like me.
My older sister is going through the grieving period of having lost her husband and not having an easy time of it. She seems to be lost and not have found a good reason to keep going. She has no motivation at the moment to keep up high spirits and because she owns her own business, she has all the responsibilities that come with that and the problems of the recession on top of it. It’s tough being a small business woman and keeping your head above water, especially if you are in mourning and business is not going well. I don’t know how to help her, except for being a listening ear and being thoughtful and understanding.
We do all seem to have a bit of resilience in us that keeps us going no matter what, although I have been the one of the three of us who has tried to bow out. We are strong in spite of ourselves. We are strong for the sake of our children. Our children are strong for the sake of us, let’s not forget that. Anyway, it’s hard to wipe us out.
I’ve told you in the past that I thought that live was supposed to be like a novel, didn’t I? Or like a well scripted drama? Like a bigger than life epic? That happens when things happen in your life that defy normality. You start to expect and accept drama and events. If they don’t happen by themselves, you make them happen and you don’t do that out of malice, but out of a sense of need and want and hunger. You think enormous events need to take place that are life changing in order to move things along and keep them alive and well and healthy. Of course, nothing could be further from the truth.
Life in our family has behaved very strangely sometimes, regardless of what I did in it, but I have added to the drama of it. I do very little of it now and I try to keep the drama very small and self contained and involve the least amount of people. I do derail occasionally, but I get back on track more quickly with less wounded people.
Anyway, we need some art. Let me see what I can do about that.
I just heard this in a song, “the more I walk straight, the more I end up in a perfect circle.” That sounds just about like me and I think I will end with those very applicable words.
You all have a really nice Friday and, for goodness sake, enjoy the day. Just think of the weekend ahead of you without the least amount of dread. Just like I am so good at doing!
Ciao…